Now that's knowing what you want....
Don't think I've ever heard of a match quite that single-minded. Good for you, Sig.
My daughter tells me that her friend's parents used to play house when they were little and decided to get married when they were still kids. So it does happen in real life too.
triL, Yeah, I wish angst would confine itself to the teenage years.
DAVE IS SANTA?!!?
"No, man, *I* am Dave. Let me in. I've got the stuff. I think the cops saw me."
The interwebs confirm it.
They made it clear it would make them SO happy to have me along. I was immediately overcome with guilt.
I can't leave the house. Like, ever. Unless it's to do grocery shopping or car pool. But I can't disappoint my dad either.
I explained thw whole dillemma to Adina (13) and she agreed to babysit Yaakov and said I should go.
To understand, I do not go out to movies. The cost and the horrible waste of time make the idea of going out to movies repugnant. But my dad wanted me to go out, and I went out with him and Rina.
The time in the quiet dark theater lent itself to thinking things through a little and I realized that every time one of my friends tries to hang out with me, I blow them off. Every time. I don't have time to hang out, to go hiking, to go to classes or book club or anything. I can't. I have to be home, the home and the kids need me. Going out to the movies a few hours with my parents had me wracked with guilt the entire time I was out over having abandoned the family. Staying home, I would have been wracked with guilt for disappointing my father. It's like having friends is a no-win situation, but I KNOW that's not right.
Oh yeah, I also leave the house for parent-teacher meetings
So, was the movie any good?
What about leaving the kids with their grand parents while going out? I have no love for babysitters, but if the grandparents take care of our son, we do like to go on a christmas shopping spree, to a nice dinner or we visit a (movie) theatre. The kid does enjoy the time with grandpa, too.
But I rarely find the time to meet with friends, too. It is getting better now that our son grows up a little.
Yeah. My dad is often tired and/or busy but occasionally I get him to babysit. I should ask him to babysit for things other than dentist appointments or parent-teacher nights. I should ask him if he minds babysitting just so I can go hiking. He would probably be delighted.
Do so! Babysitting grandpas are a win-win-win-win situation....
See, somehow this has to work better. Those Other People seem to balance kids with physical activity... they can't just all be super(wo)?men
how old is your youngest now? one of these days they gots to come hiking WITH you.
Suspect part of the reason for the hiking is so that they are NOT with her... :-)
Ladyhawke, you are so right. I try to wake up about 5am to exercise. I didn't realize I was doing it in order to have time away from the kids till my oldest, Shlomo, started waking up with me at 5 and I found myself seriously resenting his presence and incessant chatter during what had been "my" time. But really, he's right. He literally never has time to spend with me or talk to me otherwise.
But seriously, you should take time for yourself. Have the dad watch after the kids and go on s shopping spree, hiking or simply sitting in a park staring at ducks. Dads can be assholes about that, since we enjoy staring at TVs our self very much...