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Don't think I've ever heard of a match quite that single-minded. Good for you, Sig.
I've heard about them but mostly from fiction stories.
My daughter tells me that her friend's parents used to play house when they were little and decided to get married when they were still kids. So it does happen in real life too.
triL, Yeah, I wish angst would confine itself to the teenage years.
My daughter tells me that her friend's parents used to play house when they were little and decided to get married when they were still kids. So it does happen in real life too.
triL, Yeah, I wish angst would confine itself to the teenage years.
It wasn't all smooth sailing. She dated my friend Dave in high school. That
started badly and ended worse.
A few days ago my parents invited me to a movie. (My dad and his wife, for
those who might remember my mom)
They made it clear it would make them SO happy to have me along. I was immediately overcome with guilt.
I can't leave the house. Like, ever. Unless it's to do grocery shopping or car pool. But I can't disappoint my dad either.
I explained thw whole dillemma to Adina (13) and she agreed to babysit Yaakov and said I should go.
To understand, I do not go out to movies. The cost and the horrible waste of time make the idea of going out to movies repugnant. But my dad wanted me to go out, and I went out with him and Rina.
The time in the quiet dark theater lent itself to thinking things through a little and I realized that every time one of my friends tries to hang out with me, I blow them off. Every time. I don't have time to hang out, to go hiking, to go to classes or book club or anything. I can't. I have to be home, the home and the kids need me. Going out to the movies a few hours with my parents had me wracked with guilt the entire time I was out over having abandoned the family. Staying home, I would have been wracked with guilt for disappointing my father. It's like having friends is a no-win situation, but I KNOW that's not right.
Oh yeah, I also leave the house for parent-teacher meetings
They made it clear it would make them SO happy to have me along. I was immediately overcome with guilt.
I can't leave the house. Like, ever. Unless it's to do grocery shopping or car pool. But I can't disappoint my dad either.
I explained thw whole dillemma to Adina (13) and she agreed to babysit Yaakov and said I should go.
To understand, I do not go out to movies. The cost and the horrible waste of time make the idea of going out to movies repugnant. But my dad wanted me to go out, and I went out with him and Rina.
The time in the quiet dark theater lent itself to thinking things through a little and I realized that every time one of my friends tries to hang out with me, I blow them off. Every time. I don't have time to hang out, to go hiking, to go to classes or book club or anything. I can't. I have to be home, the home and the kids need me. Going out to the movies a few hours with my parents had me wracked with guilt the entire time I was out over having abandoned the family. Staying home, I would have been wracked with guilt for disappointing my father. It's like having friends is a no-win situation, but I KNOW that's not right.
Oh yeah, I also leave the house for parent-teacher meetings
So, was the movie any good?
What about leaving the kids with their grand parents while going out? I have no love for babysitters, but if the grandparents take care of our son, we do like to go on a christmas shopping spree, to a nice dinner or we visit a (movie) theatre. The kid does enjoy the time with grandpa, too.
But I rarely find the time to meet with friends, too. It is getting better now that our son grows up a little.
Yes! Actually, Yaakov asks for my father (Saba) to babysit him. When he talks
to Saba on the phone I hear him say "Please babysit me".
Yeah. My dad is often tired and/or busy but occasionally I get him to babysit. I should ask him to babysit for things other than dentist appointments or parent-teacher nights. I should ask him if he minds babysitting just so I can go hiking. He would probably be delighted.
Yeah. My dad is often tired and/or busy but occasionally I get him to babysit. I should ask him to babysit for things other than dentist appointments or parent-teacher nights. I should ask him if he minds babysitting just so I can go hiking. He would probably be delighted.
See, somehow this has to work better. Those Other People seem to balance kids with physical activity... they can't just all be super(wo)?men
Yeah, he's 3 now. Too heavy to carry and too young to hike. Last time I tried
it we were to a park on Rt 202 which also has a dog run, and so they have
lots of dogs there. There's also a lake. As soon as I entered the park with
Yaakov, he ran to the lake to see the doggies. And we stayed there for the
entire hour and half, with him tossing pebbles in the water and squealing
with happiness at all the dogs. He had fun and was adorable. But I can't take
him hiking yet.
Ladyhawke, you are so right. I try to wake up about 5am to exercise. I didn't realize I was doing it in order to have time away from the kids till my oldest, Shlomo, started waking up with me at 5 and I found myself seriously resenting his presence and incessant chatter during what had been "my" time. But really, he's right. He literally never has time to spend with me or talk to me otherwise.
Ladyhawke, you are so right. I try to wake up about 5am to exercise. I didn't realize I was doing it in order to have time away from the kids till my oldest, Shlomo, started waking up with me at 5 and I found myself seriously resenting his presence and incessant chatter during what had been "my" time. But really, he's right. He literally never has time to spend with me or talk to me otherwise.