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2020-08-11 17:45 from IGnatius T Foobar
My daughter is 15 and she isn't into boys yet. She wants to be a
crazy cat lady. This bothers me a lot. I want grandchildren.
When I was about 20-21, I hung out a lot with this girl, about 18-19, from my high school. She was absolutely adamant that she did not want kids. (The subject would come up when her family would challenge her about the tattoo near her belly: "how is that going to look after you have stretch marks? She would respond by saying she'd never had kids.)
I am connected with her on Facebook, so we keep in touch in a very slightly way, but I don't know all the details of her life because it wouldn't be appropriate to ask. But I think what happened is, she didn't have kids, but she's lived with guys who did, and really loves them.
What I'm saying is just this: don't worry too much; people find joy in different ways.
* that and most likely, if she's 15, she'll be into boys pretty soon (or already is and won't disclose, haha), and pretty soon you'll be standing out there with a shotgun. enjoy it while it lasts
I do think that at some point people get hit with a biological mandate to procreate, and hopefully that will happen to her.
So my daughter tells me she thinks she's bi, and I get a little sad, but assure her I'll love her and whoever she ends up with.
Then her best friend, who I totally see as an extra daughter, tells me she thinks she's bi, and she can't tell her parents, and I'm thinking omg, she'd be such an awesome daughter-in-law... ;)
They're 13, so I don't know how much any of it means.
Sun Aug 23 2020 12:34:10 EDT from triLcat @ UncensoredSo my daughter tells me she thinks she's bi, and I get a little sad, but assure her I'll love her and whoever she ends up with.
Then her best friend, who I totally see as an extra daughter, tells me she thinks she's bi, and she can't tell her parents, and I'm thinking omg, she'd be such an awesome daughter-in-law... ;)
They're 13, so I don't know how much any of it means.
Being queer or TG or non-binary or some element of this is the new edgy for the kids who don't fit into traditional scenes. It is Gen Z's version of punk rock, because it is about the ONLY thing that makes their pierced, tatted, Gen X parents a little uncomfortable - and that we don't completely understand, as a group.
Some of them really *are* - more kids are comfortable coming out, younger, about these things than ever before. But a lot of them are wearing it the same way my generation wore their mohawk and multiple piercings.
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