Problem is that if you put up a fence to keep your kids out of the street, the day they decide to climb it, they might wind up falling in the street instead of just walking into it...
You have to teach them all the issues involved in it, and explain to them why it's not good for them, keep it out of your house as much as possible, set a good example, and know that at some point, your child will look at porn, and if you've established it as an absolute evil and completely banished the thought of them looking at it, then any issues that arise as a result will not be brought to you.
My parents were so absolutely against premarital sex that when I was raped, I felt guilty and couldn't go to them.
Try not to make that kind of mistake with your kids. (Make different ones!)
Mistakes for sale! Get your mistakes, here! Use 'em on your kids! Every mistake unique!
True. Ouch. Although I suppose it depends on the context. If you're being severely mistreated, sometimes abstaining from face-punching really *is* admirable. Kids can be monstrous...
triL, I'm definitely trying to not make the mistakes that will cause my kids to not come talk to me, and I am actively working on making other mistakes.
I can't believe that, after already going through this stage with 3 other kids, I'm allowing myself to bribe Yaakov to get dressed *every* *single* morning*. I have a BIG bag of M&Ms in my purse and I wind up usually getting his diaper and pants on before he struggles away, then give him 1 each for his shirt, each sock and each shoe. It's either that or hold him down (or more likely. have one of the big kids hold him down) while I dress him and he screams and cries.
He really really just wants to be naked all day.
But he goes to school. I've tried the logical "You like school? You can't go if you're not dressed" and logic didn't work. So it's either fighting andf crying, or bribing.
Open to ideas for other options! He's 2.5
Actually, I wind up bribing him into pajamas at the end of the day as well, but I do give him some time to run around naked first, till he feels cold to the touch or till it's Bedtime.
maybe you should find out why he dislikes (these?) clothes? (color, farbic, width?) or whether its rather that he likes m&m's and is clever enough to get them? ;-)
maybe wearking a kaftan is the better alternative to him?
sometimes we do races. Sometimes we sing. Sometimes we ask if they want to get dressed the hard way or the easy way. Sometimes we do 'can you show me how you put on a shirt?'
Sometimes giving a choice of 2 outfits...
Each of them has worked a few times, but every day is a new and unique challenge...
Ugh. Troublemaking little neighbor kid managed to convince my daughter that "it's not real money it's just points" and subsequently spent a bunch of my son's Wii points.
Someone must pay.
Tough one IG. My son did that with his sisters Gameboy games. Traded some she liked (but he did not) with a friend for some oddly shaped rubber bands (silly bands I think they were called) that he thought were more valuable at the time :-)
Not quite the same, but as a younger sibling, he did not take in to consideration "other" costs of that transaction.
Sucks. Unfortunately, you're going to have to talk it through with the parents or suck it up. Depends how much money it is... If it's under $10, I'd probably just let it go.
And miss the opportunity to explain what has value in this virtual world in which we live?
obviously, he's going to have to explain to his daughter that stuff that costs money is worth money and all that... so why do we share apples but not pennies... ?