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[#] Wed Aug 17 2022 16:16:09 EDT from Nurb432

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Waiting is overrated. 

Wed Aug 17 2022 09:13:31 AM EDT from IGnatius T Foobar
I was 23 and just married ... I guess there aren't a lot like me anymore.

 



[#] Sun Aug 28 2022 16:46:04 EDT from darknetuser

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2022-08-17 16:16 from Nurb432
Waiting is overrated. 

I have held the opinion that relationships are overrated for a while.


I am not gonna lie: I'd like to feel loved by somebody who does not bark or go "neigh" for a change, but when I scan the people around me and check how their respective relationships are going, I don't envy them. I think only a tiny minority in my age bracket gets what they want out of the relationship. It would be pretentious for me to think I am going to be an exception.

Besides, my need for a romantic relationships is decreasing over time because I am developing the skills for doing what I would want a woman for myself anyway.

[#] Sun Aug 28 2022 17:52:08 EDT from Nurb432

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The 'right one' is a good thing.

Most people just settle for something less to save time. its why you see so much unhappiness.



[#] Sun Aug 28 2022 19:15:14 EDT from darknetuser

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2022-08-28 17:52 from Nurb432
The 'right one' is a good thing.

Most people just settle for something less to save time. its why you

see so much unhappiness.


I certainly see many matches I would not bet for in the long run. I wonder how they can get started to begin with. Some matches are worse than if I paired with a girl who hated horses.

This is specially striking because my generation is clearly abusing dating platforms. The market for girls is huge to pick the boy they want. This is so true that casual relationships have become very devaluated.

See, if you are a girl in a dating platform, you may get 50 candidates per day. What happens then is the same that happens when Human Resources gets too many candidates for a vacancy: they start filtering candidates using bullshit criteria. Maybe they want an entry level tech for deploying Active Directory or whatever, but since half the candidates do it, they start asking for candidates who can write a Java Microservice or whatever... even if the job position has nothing at all to do with Java or Microservices.


I have no personal experience in dating platforms. My friends who do have confided me that girls have a tendency to place no effort at all in dates, because they can get so many that the each date is close to worthless. Supply and demmand et al.

So when the girl has such liberty to pick what she wants, WHY THE FUCK DO THEY PICK THE DUDE THAT ENDS UP MAKING HER FEEL MISERABLE.

Men are also bad at choosing, and I find lots of them falling prey to gold diggers, manipulators and she-dictators. I find it a bit more understandable, since a man's ability to select what he wants is way more limited. However, I think it is much better to be alone if you can't find what you want than setting for something you don't really like just because there is nothing better.

[#] Sat Sep 17 2022 13:23:20 EDT from IGnatius T Foobar

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So when the girl has such liberty to pick what she wants, WHY THE FUCK

DO THEY PICK THE DUDE THAT ENDS UP MAKING HER FEEL MISERABLE.

Do you want the truth? It isn't pretty.

Humans are genetically wired to optimize for reproductive success. For men, that means our instinct is to dominate and subjugate women. Like it or not, societies in which women are property are already optimized for reproductive success.

For women, it means their instinct is to select mates who are likely to protect their families, using lots of violence if necessary, to increase their likelihood of successful reproduction. In a modern society where killing other men is frowned upon, it manifests as men being jerks.

The only reason our current system works at all is because we have a very large population with large pools of potential mates for everyone.

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