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[#] Tue Mar 18 2014 19:04:48 EDT from IGnatius T Foobar

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Everywhere I go, people tell me how polite and friendly my children are.
I already know they're awesome but I have to admit the constant affirmations are nice. It's especially nice when we're all together.

[#] Tue Mar 18 2014 19:41:02 EDT from Sig

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I frequently get frustrated with my children. Then I interact with other people's children.

[#] Thu Mar 20 2014 23:35:29 EDT from ax25

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Shazam, he is in a mixed gender school, but it is just that he has not hit an age where he notices girls yet.  That is the part I am doing the waiting for, so I can give up the nagging part.

[#] Sun Mar 30 2014 08:31:43 EDT from triLcat

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A girl said something that I didn't hear, but the impression I got was that she said i smelled bad - this was in 9th grade. For the rest of high school, I never went 48 hours without a shower.


[#] Thu Apr 10 2014 11:02:49 EDT from Shazam

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We're still looking for a high school for Shlomo. I wanted to keep him local, in Monsey, but none of the schools want him. It's April, and I don't have any other applications out at the moment I don't know what is going to be with him for next year. He's too socially awkward, no one wants to have to deal with it. If his grades were great or probably if we were in a position to make big donations to the schools, things would be easier. But. thinThings aren't easier. So.
Does anyone know anything about home schooling?

[#] Thu Apr 10 2014 11:07:41 EDT from Ladyhawke

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Just from acquaintances.  Which is to say that I know it's very hard...but also rewarding if done right.  That said - if he's socially awkward, I imagine that home schooling might amplify that?

[#] Thu Apr 10 2014 11:37:22 EDT from Shazam

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I don't know, maybe. On the other hand, being in school surrounded by kids all these years never seemed to make it any better either. the whole "sink or swim" method sucks, because it's MY baby I'm watching sink. Not everyone learns to swim in the end. People DO sink. And I get to watch it happen.

[#] Thu Apr 10 2014 13:09:44 EDT from Ladyhawke

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I hear that....  Not easy either way, for sure, Shazam.

[#] Thu Apr 10 2014 17:21:02 EDT from triLcat

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Has he applied to TABC?

It's MO, but all boys. NJ, but should be in range for bussing. 

What does the principal at his current school suggest?


[#] Thu Apr 10 2014 23:24:46 EDT from IGnatius T Foobar

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Does anyone know anything about home schooling?

Yes. It's the school of choice for socially dysfunctional loonies who want to make sure their kids grow up to be socially dysfunctional loonies as well.

[#] Thu Apr 10 2014 23:54:34 EDT from vince-q

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Suggestion: Catholic boarding school.
Not kidding. Those schools are usually superb and these days they do **not** "push" Catholicism on non-Catholics.

[#] Fri Apr 11 2014 06:05:58 EDT from triLcat

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Between his dietary restrictions (kosher is a LOT more than not eating pork or cheeseburgers) and the expectation that he will achieve a certain level in Jewish studies such as Talmud, Catholic boarding school is about as realistic as sending a non-Jewish kid to boarding school in Japan...

Public school would be a better option than Catholic boarding school, though only by a small margin.

Suffice it to say that I recommended an Orthodox school above, and I suspect that even that school would be considered 'not religious enough' by Shazam's crowd...

Of course, I went to the 'even less religious yet still Orthodox' school nearby, and I don't have any issues with where I ended up.


[#] Sun Apr 13 2014 18:14:08 EDT from Sig

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Apr 10 2014 11:24pm from IGnatius T Foobar @uncnsrd
Does anyone know anything about home schooling?

Yes. It's the school of choice for socially dysfunctional loonies who

want to make sure their kids grow up to be socially dysfunctional
loonies as well.

Possibly, but I can't say the socialization they'd be getting at school would be an improvement. Mine wasn't.

[#] Tue Apr 15 2014 16:07:45 EDT from triLcat

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Learning how to deal with stupid jerks is actually an important life skill. 

[#] Thu Apr 17 2014 15:40:35 EDT from Shazam

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Leah, I'm personally a little more open to "less religious" schools at this time, but it seems like the less religious you go, the more expensive the school is. In fact, I've heard of the Torah Academy of Bergen County, but $20K + a year is way way out of our budget. This is still only one child, I still have 3 more.
I'm socially dysfunctional, so I suppose I could pass that on to the next generation. Seriously, though, I just don't think being surrounded by other students, or not, would make that big a difference to Shlomo, socially. First of all, I don't think he notices other people so much. Secondly, when he does notice them, it
's usually because they hurt him (and usually after he hurt them first). thirdly, you can still socialize with people even if you're not in the same class as they are. He sees people at shul, he sees people everywhere, he wouldn't be locked in the house and not allowed out. I was thinking he could go to Boces, learn some actual marketable skill. That's something no high school in Monsey would give him. I don't know, I'd need to make sure he is occupied daily from like 7am-7pm, and I'd want him to learn things like math and spelling, but I also want him to learn Gmara and Kriya (Hebrew things). He could maybe get a part time job to learn some real life things. I don't know.

[#] Thu Apr 17 2014 17:00:37 EDT from triLcat

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You're talking about something like River View?

Does he qualify for something like that?

[#] Thu Apr 17 2014 17:04:37 EDT from triLcat

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Assuming he qualifies for that, it should be state paid - you could hire a tutor to teach him Jewish studies and financially, it would be a lot less of a burden on you.

Plus, if he doesn't learn well by interacting, it might be a better way for him to learn in general.

My dad did the whole daf yomi cycle by watching/listening to online shiurim. There's something called web yeshiva...I mean, there are plenty of ways for a bachur to learn without actually being surrounded by other boys who like to pick on the one who's different. 

[#] Fri Apr 18 2014 18:37:27 EDT from Sig

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Apr 15 2014 4:07pm from triLcat @uncnsrd
Learning how to deal with stupid jerks is actually an important life

Absolutely agree, but you don't need to do it for 7 hours per day, and that is not exactly the prime thing to be learned at school.

[#] Thu Apr 24 2014 15:42:55 EDT from Shazam

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I never heard of River View. Googling it didn't help. (Am I allowed to say "Googling" on this BBS?)

[#] Fri Apr 25 2014 09:46:42 EDT from triLcat

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go to the boces website and look at schooling options. River View seems to have a standard educational curriculum (including AP and such)+ help for whatever other issues there are.


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