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Mar 24 2014 4:43pm from IGnatius T Foobar @uncnsrd
There's a big difference between being a bully and being a bossy bitch.
And let's be honest here, we all know what happens when you "ban a
word" -- you give it POWER. And then it becomes even more of a problem
because people know it has power and it gets wielded as a weapon by
people on both sides of any debate.
The correct approach is to *embrace* a word which takes away its power
to be used as a cudgel that people can be beaten with. Look at what
the gay community did by embracing the word "queer," for example.
Imagine how much better the world would be if the black community had
done the same with "nigger."
profound
Next?
1. Pie is made with Butta. The mo-ah Butta the betta the pie.
2. In M-a$$-achusetts, there's a bill pending that would make it illegal for people in the midst of a divorce (read, legally separated) to date or have sex with someone else without the prior written approval of a judge. The solution to this is also pie. In the face. A lot of it.
Hey, I may have some fundamental differences with the Communists - but at least they actually like sex. This time, the lunacy is actually the product of conservative morality.
1. Pie is made with Butta. The mo-ah Butta the betta the pie.
2. In M-a$$-achusetts, there's a bill pending that would make it
illegal for people in the midst of a divorce (read, legally
separated) to date or have sex with someone else without the prior
written approval of a judge. The solution to this is also pie. In
the face. A lot of it.
I hear they'll also be requiring a "get." Oy. http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/22/us/a-wedding-amid-cries-of-unfinished-business-from-a-marriage.html
fleeby, don't you know that everything related to Mastercard is Priceless?
The word Aguna refers to a particularly nasty situation that occurs when a couple has both a Civil (secular) and Jewish wedding - EG, they are married by a a rabbi and sign a ketubah (Jewish wedding contract) and then later get Civally divorced - but the husband refuses to agree to a Get, or Jewish divorce. This leaves the former wife Civally free - but religiously still chained to the ex-husband and unable to remarry from a religious perspective until the Get is issued.
While there have been some cases of women refusing to grant a Get, it's an extremely small number. Unfortunately, over recent years, the number of men refusing to grant Gets has been rising; apparently usually either out of spite or to blackmail the wife for something he wants (like full custody of children if that was denied by civil court).
Here are a couple of articles, if you're interested.
http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/613084/jewish/The-Agunah.htm
http://www.jofa.org/sites/default/files/uploaded_documents/jofa_journal_summer_2005.pdf
My f-i-l went off to work one day when my husband was 4 and didn't come home again until my husband was 19. My mother-in-law was unable to remarry for 15 years - I think like age 27-42... basically he denied her the option of having more children, rebuilding her life, etc...
Seriously tragic. And evil of him, imo.