Don't let your kid become an actress or an actor. At least not until they're old enough.
Also, don't do this to your child:
teeth pulling in the 21st century
My daughter is watching Monty Python's Flying Circus. (mwahhahahahaaaa)
done next generation aid today:
technical bike training.
standing up while cycling, riding with one hand off, breaking with the vbrakes without skidding, and sprint training with proper shifting.
the only thing we didn't get done is getting off without sitting, so the seat post could have been raised to a propper heeight...
According to this study, the children of "extra-affectionate" mothers become more well-adjusted adults. (And I'm going to generalize it out and change it to all parents, not just mothers. 'cuz I'm just crazy about my kids.)
Wow!! I'm more thrown by the comments after that article. Whole life stories chronicled there - whoa!! The Captain has turned on the no sharing sign. I got to spend time with a child who has the same diagnois as mine and is about the same age a little while ago and the differences were dramatic. The other mom was much less attentive - she misplaced his script that he had carefully underlined and highlighted and forgot to send in his lunch with him. (Though to be perfectly honest - I have almost forgot to throw the lunch bag in the backpack several times so lunch dropping off is in my future) A friend of mine knows this family and commented that my kid can navigate better through situations - of course we spend an enormous amount of time prepping and rehearsing situations with him - but I was thinking about this kid today - he isn't a bad kid - he just needs some attention and TLC. I did the only thing I could think of which was to say a little prayer that he was having a good day and that people that understood would be brought into his life and that he would find one really good friend.
I just get frustrated when people treat kids like accessories - of course I also think carrying a little dog in your purse is annoying too!
I think 'extra-affectionate' in this sense doesn't mean that the parents are giving a lot of material things to the kid... just that they're extremely loving, and showing of that love, while the kid is still an infant.
It'd be interesting if one could prove genetics or environment on this.
Di Jul 27 2010 16:26:25 EDT von Ragnar Danneskjold @ UncensoredI don't believe that for a second. Most kids I've seen from "extra-affectionate" parents are spolied little brats.
i'd say it depends on the way they do that effort.If its to tightly say what to do and so on, or it goes into the cocker direction, you're probably right.
I don't believe that for a second. Most kids I've seen from
"extra-affectionate" parents are spolied little brats.
It would be a fallacy to equivocate affection with spoiling one's children by giving them anything they want. What children want the most is to feel loved, to feel safe and secure and to have a sense of belonging in their family.
Giving them stuff is no substitute, even if it appears that way initially.
A lot of parents, particularly affluent ones, often make the same mistake.
The kid doesn't want you to give him a ball; he wants you to *play* ball with him.
my kids are out of bed at 11:30pm. oh no!
We're in a hotel room in St Petersburg (Russia, not Florida)
uh oh. must get back into the fray
Each person has different abilities, you can only hope each parent is parenting to the best extent of their abilities. I've found most parents love their children immensely, but that doesn't automatically translate into making good parenting choices.
I've recently been critisized that I share too much information with the kids. When I stopped to think about it, I really do tend to tell them too much. I have been sharing with them how much things cost regarding the new house, now Shlomo is worried that we won't be able to afford our bills. The other two are a lot more relaxed, but Shlomo's become really nervous. That's not right for a 10 year old to worry like that and I now wish I'd kept my mouth shut about the cost of the contractors needed to bring the house up to code and the cost of all the repairmen to fix all the various things that broke as soon as we moved in and whether or not we can afford a new roof. I've been worrying out loud about what the utility and water bills will be, when I should have been quiet when kids were around me. Poor parenting choice. But I love my kids to the ends of the world.
If love was all that was needed to raise healthy, happy, well-adjusted kids, I'd be set. Too bad life just isn't that easy.
I don't think that kids should be kept away from everything. You just should try to find understandeable words.
a family is there to stand together and to share sorrow and happiness.
You probably should mention the value you get for that decision.
Or, if you can't, maybe not. Heh.
have a real talk with him about how money works - that even if these things cost a lot, you'll still find ways to have food to eat and a place to live, that maybe you'll have to be careful to buy less clothes or cheaper clothes or be more careful to buy food on sale, but you won't be hungry and you'll be ok. Tell him how much money you earn in an hour and go to the store and show him a package of pasta and have him do the math about how much pasta you can buy with just one hour of work. Show him a bunch of different foods, and see how much food you can buy with three hour's salary. It's an interesting exercise in general. Might give him an understanding of why you'd say (for example) that a cereal is too expensive, even if you really CAN afford it.
It was always hard for me to understand why a $3 box of cereal was too expensive but a $5 shirt wasn't...